There is guilt embedded somewhere deep within the fiber of our people pleaser souls. Guilt is woven so tightly that no matter how gentle we are with our family friends and/or colleagues– we can’t help but having feelings of guilt and shame when we say, “No.” At first, saying no might create some feelings of guilt but, making touch choices today will put you in a happier place tomorrow.
Archive for February, 2010
Learn To Say “No” Guilt-Free
Feb 26
I planned to blog about letter writing this week. I wanted to share some of the techniques I use to lift myself out of an emotional depression. Letter writing is a valuable alternative healing technique when I need a little relationship therapy or anger therapy and it is still two weeks before my next appointment with my therapist.
And then a completely unexpected event happened. It compelled me to return to my trusted old friend for dealing with grief and find some emotional healing.
It’s true. This is my first St. Valentine’s Day as a divorced woman. The fact that I am newly single with no sweetheart to grant my Valentine Wish seems kind of a downer doesn’t it? Truthfully, I don’t care that I don’t have a sweetheart for Valentine’s Day. I have a lot of love in my life.
Instead, I thought it would be fun to do a little Google scavenger hunt on Valentine’s Day. I brainstormed 10 top Google ranked Valentine’s Day phrases, typed each in the Google Search and looked at result number 100 for each (10th result on page 10). This is what I found out about Valentine’s Day beyond page one.
I’ll admit I am incredibly naïve. I joke that I’m always so busy looking out after myself that I don’t notice other people and their ill intent. In fact, I’m not really joking. I genuinely believe that our “normal balance” is focusing on ourselves and looking out for number one. That’s where keeping your emotional boundaries with co-workers if important.
