I started thinking today about my beliefs with regard to divorce and how they measure up to my real life experience. I am a child of divorce and now I have experienced my own. Below are some revealing truths about divorce and why what you think you know, may not be correct.
Archive for category Emotions
Change is Constant
Mar 20
I embrace the one constant feature of life – that is change. My life changed dramatically in the span of the last 12 months. I had a baby, got laid off from my job and ended my marriage. All of these changes would be overwhelming to most people. For me, these changes presented an opportunity to start again.
I am angry right now. I have allowed many of my personal boundaries to become breached over the last week. I’m feeling exhausted and overwhelmed. I’m trying to make really good decisions yet, I feel like I’m being stuffed back down into the box from which I recently escaped. Writing is my depression therapist. For me, sharing my thoughts with you is my best treatment for depression.
Learn To Say “No” Guilt-Free
Feb 26
There is guilt embedded somewhere deep within the fiber of our people pleaser souls. Guilt is woven so tightly that no matter how gentle we are with our family friends and/or colleagues– we can’t help but having feelings of guilt and shame when we say, “No.” At first, saying no might create some feelings of guilt but, making touch choices today will put you in a happier place tomorrow.
I planned to blog about letter writing this week. I wanted to share some of the techniques I use to lift myself out of an emotional depression. Letter writing is a valuable alternative healing technique when I need a little relationship therapy or anger therapy and it is still two weeks before my next appointment with my therapist.
And then a completely unexpected event happened. It compelled me to return to my trusted old friend for dealing with grief and find some emotional healing.
It’s true. This is my first St. Valentine’s Day as a divorced woman. The fact that I am newly single with no sweetheart to grant my Valentine Wish seems kind of a downer doesn’t it? Truthfully, I don’t care that I don’t have a sweetheart for Valentine’s Day. I have a lot of love in my life.
Instead, I thought it would be fun to do a little Google scavenger hunt on Valentine’s Day. I brainstormed 10 top Google ranked Valentine’s Day phrases, typed each in the Google Search and looked at result number 100 for each (10th result on page 10). This is what I found out about Valentine’s Day beyond page one.
I’ll admit I am incredibly naïve. I joke that I’m always so busy looking out after myself that I don’t notice other people and their ill intent. In fact, I’m not really joking. I genuinely believe that our “normal balance” is focusing on ourselves and looking out for number one. That’s where keeping your emotional boundaries with co-workers if important.
