I embrace the one constant feature of life – that is change. My life changed dramatically in the span of the last 12 months. I had a baby, got laid off from my job and ended my marriage. All of these changes would be overwhelming to most people. For me, these changes presented an opportunity to start again.
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Change is Constant
Mar 20
Learn To Say “No” Guilt-Free
Feb 26
There is guilt embedded somewhere deep within the fiber of our people pleaser souls. Guilt is woven so tightly that no matter how gentle we are with our family friends and/or colleagues– we can’t help but having feelings of guilt and shame when we say, “No.” At first, saying no might create some feelings of guilt but, making touch choices today will put you in a happier place tomorrow.
I planned to blog about letter writing this week. I wanted to share some of the techniques I use to lift myself out of an emotional depression. Letter writing is a valuable alternative healing technique when I need a little relationship therapy or anger therapy and it is still two weeks before my next appointment with my therapist.
And then a completely unexpected event happened. It compelled me to return to my trusted old friend for dealing with grief and find some emotional healing.
I’ll admit I am incredibly naïve. I joke that I’m always so busy looking out after myself that I don’t notice other people and their ill intent. In fact, I’m not really joking. I genuinely believe that our “normal balance” is focusing on ourselves and looking out for number one. That’s where keeping your emotional boundaries with co-workers if important.
I’m a recently divorced woman. When it became clear I could not save my marriage, I made the choice to divorce. Over the last eight months, my emotions have run the gamut from anger, relief, elation, empowerment, anger and yes, even anxiety and depression, and more anger. I hope that as you read these 10 things not to do when getting divorced, you will find at least one that you can take away on piece of divorce advice and incorporate into your life.
Don’t be surprised that I’m writing about Valentine’s Day and divorce at the same time. After all, I am recently divorced and wretched Valentine’s Day is coming once again to tease, stress and disappoint most of us.
I’ve only had one man in my life that lived up to all of the Valentine’s Day hype. He was a hopeless romantic and very skilled at the Wow factor of Valentine’s Day. But, when it came to commitment and marriage – well let’s just say it’s a good thing I didn’t marry him because, that relationship too, would have ended in divorce.
After my husband I split, I was having trouble dealing with my anxiety and disappointment. I was short-tempered with everyone from my co-workers to my children. I began searching for any number of avenues to enhance my conflict resolution skills. Whether it was through online anger management training, or one on one with a therapist for anger management lessons – I knew for sure, I needed outside help.
Anger comes from a variety of sources. It acts as an alarm telling us when something is wrong with a situation. My anger specifically is a byproduct of these emotions:
