The fact is that forgiveness truly sets you free. Whether you are forgiving yourself, an ex-husband, friend or family member, forgiveness relieves you of all the depression and anxiety you are feeling in your relationships and allows you to heal yourself on an emotionally healthy level.
Archive for category Power
I recently sent this letter to a new suitor. I entered into this relationship against my better judgment. Turns out, my instinct was right.
I found myself reverting to old patterns and allowing him to breach each emotional boundary I had established. I am ashamed to admit it but my emotional autonomy was being eroded and many of my emotional dependency issues began to arise.
I began to recognize some familiar head games and could see the mental abuse going on. My A$$ was getting handed to me and I felt like I was spiraling into an emotional depression. I felt like retreating. I knew I had to do something to salvage all the good work I had done over the past 6 months. I resolved to quietly end things on my terms.
Do you know what I think of when someone mentions New Year’s resolutions to me? I think of Goals. People that make New Year’s resolutions, have Goals. If you don’t have a resolution for 2010, then in my opinion you are without Goals. In other words, you have given up and you have resigned yourself to one of two ideas:
Good, reliable communication is essential to any good relationship. At one time I thought of myself as an excellent communicator. No so much anymore. Today I don’t seem to be able to get my point across.
I wonder if it’s because my point of view is skewed. Maybe it’s because I am using the wrong approach. I don’t know what the hang up is so I’m always interested when I come across an article about being a better communicator.
Authenticity
Oct 23
At what point in our lives do we become un-authentic? Look at your kids. Aren’t they completely authentic? They know how to love themselves, be bold, celebrate who they are, express themselves, be fearless and they know who they are. What happens between 4 and 40 to change the state in which we are naturally made?
Maybe this is a rhetorical question but I think it’s worth the debate. Here’s why.
Co-parenting
Oct 15
Today I’m trying very hard to remember to conduct myself with grace and dignity. Anytime I get overwhelmed with my emotions, I practice my deep breathing and pray to God for Grace and Dignity. I do this because I know that I have the black beast lurking right there on my shoulder, ready to take me down that ugly emotional highway. You know the one…you say things you don’t mean, you get all worked up and suddently you have become this raving lunatic that doesn’t remotely resemble anyone that you would recongnize?
Happiness
Oct 10
As much as we all think we want it, many of us are convinced, deep down, that it’s wrong to be happy (or too happy). Whether the belief comes from religion, culture, or the family you were raised in, it usually leaves you feeling guilty if you’re having fun.
1. Happy people find their most golden self.
What is making you happy? Material things, shopping, approval addictions or are you engaged in a more centered cerebral happiness? Researchers say that, people that are purposefully engaged in life, (pursued self-development) weighed less, slept better, and had fewer stress hormones and markers for heart disease than others.
